Are you wondering why your lover feels so far away? Do you just not feel close any more? Why don't you feel sexy and wanted?
This happens at different times throughout the life of a relationship. First and foremost, this needs to be seen as a reminder, a wake-up call to get back on track. If you let this go on for too long, you will find yourself living as roommates, with no real intimacy between you.
3 Steps to Feel Close Again
- Start Talking. I don't mean daily chit chat. I mean real conversation about your hopes and dreams. Where do you want your life to go? Who are you now at this point in your life? What do you want to accomplish?
- Spend Quality Time. Couples need to spend at least 10 hours per week connecting. I know that seems like a lot because everyone has jobs and kids, etc. BUT if you want a great marriage, find the time. Put the kids to bed early, get a babysitter for the night. Find some time for love and spend the time feeling sexy and sensual with your partner.
- Touch Your Sweetheart. Showing physical affection (holding hands, rubbing her back, etc) releases something in your body called oxytocin. Oxytocin is the bonding chemical. It makes you feel close to another person.
We all want to feel connected, supported and really "seen" by our partner, so if you're not getting it, spend some effort giving it. It will lead to a healthier relationship.
